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6 November 27, 2015 THE U.P. CATHOLIC CONTINUED FROM... www.upcatholic.org thinks they have succeeded in doing so. Youre talking to two people at the same time. He explained that before starting to really talk to them, its import- ant to get a better sense as to why they left the faith to better target an answer. However, in Kreefts words, that doesnt mean that if you dont know why they left, you dont say anything. According to Kreeft, the first thing to do is ask questions to see where theyre coming from such as, Do you go to Church anymore? Do you still believe anything? What do you believe? Allowing that person to talk, rather than you preaching to them is another element of Kreefts advice. He advises to play the part of the stu- dent and let them be the teacher. Kreeft gave four basic practices on what Catholics can do in helping those who have fallen way. They are, pray, love them, talk to them and be open minded. Pray Its awfully important that we do what we can to bring people back to the faith. And, its awfully important that we pray because prayer is our lifeline to God, said Kreeft. He explained that many times a per- son gets caught up in figuring out how to pray by using the correct method of prayer, instead of just doing it. There are a lot of methods, there is no one method for everybody. Whats the most important thing? Do it. Dont use as an excuse that you dont have a perfect method. Also key in prayer, according to Kreeft, is complete, total surrender to God. Pray, God, your will be done. Use me as your instrument anyway you want. Love For using love, Kreeft gave the sim- ple words of, Love them. Dont stop, and dont give up. Dont ever give up. Talk Kreeft explained how oftentimes people are afraid to talk, because of being scared about what others might think. Open your mouth, dont be afraid. Dont try, just speak the truth. He added that when talking, use the head and the heart. Loving is not an excuse for not thinking, and thinking is not an excuse for not loving. Truth and love are absolutes. Always speak truth and always speak it in love. Open minded Be open minded, keep your mind open to divine inspiration. If you find a word springing to your lips, blurt it out. Use your imagination, use your creativity, Kreeft stated. Dont prepare what to say beforehand, dont five a lecture. Trust the Holy Spirit. Hell use your tongue. Kreeft is a philosophy professor at Boston College and The Kings College in New York City. He is the author of more than 75 books of Christian philosophy, theology and apologetics. to earn a bachelors degree in social work and graduated from the Catholic Univer- sity of America in Washington, D.C., with a masters degree in social work in May of 1998. She was hired by CSS in June 1998 as a therapist. Ive always been interested in adoption, Tryan said. Everyone is connected to adop- tion in some way. Tryan and CSS became involved with the open adoption movement. All adoptions were closed, previously, she explained. A mother gave birth and the baby was taken away. There was no information on where the baby went or who the parents were. With open adoption, the mother chooses the family that will adopt her baby from a pool of applicants, Tryan continued. We assess the applicant families and train them in open adoptions. The mother chooses the family, then we set up meetings and help everyone through the process. The adoptive family takes the baby from the hospital, and the birth mother and adoptive family have an on-going contact. But the birth mother has no parental rights. There are fewer open adoptions now because there are fewer referrals for infant adoptions, she said. Most adoptions now are through foster care programs, where the child has been removed from a family because of abuse or neglect. Since 2011, when Tryan became supervi- sor of CSSs adoption and foster care pro- fram, it grew from managing a few foster care cases and about two adoptions per year to managing over 15 foster care cases per month and expects to complete 12 adop- tions for the second straight year, according to Rambo. Tryan said she accomplished this by en- tering a partnership with the state DHHS. We started to work with DHHS and take children for foster care that DHHS refers, she said. Her emphasis now is on increasing the number of foster care homes available in the U.P. so there are homes available for older children and special needs children. To in- crease awareness, Tryan has been asking churches to place articles in their bulletins about the need for foster care homes, and has had articles in The U.P. Catholic as well. Mostly, its word of mouth through families that have worked with us, she said. Tryan said it takes about six months for a family to become licensed as a foster care home. There is a training program, as well as background checks, she said. Recently, 21 people completed the 12-hour foster and adoptive parent training program. The exception to the licensing requirement is if the foster care family is a relative of the child, Tryan explained, and placing the child with a relative is a priority. If that fails, a licensed foster home is sought, she said. Tryan is also the Victim Advocacy Coun- selor for the diocese, helping people who have been abused by clergy or church per- sonnel through the process of finding help. She has helped support the Suicide Preven- tion Task Force in Delta County and has worked to ensure at-risk children in Delta County receive counseling from a profes- sional child counselor. Catholic Social Services of the U.P. has offices in Marquette, Iron Mountain and Escanaba. Services offered include: ADOLESCENT SUBSTANCE ABUSE SERVICES: An intense outpatient substance abuse program aimed at children from 11 to 15 and their families. Call the Marquette office, (906) 227- 9119, to register. ADOPTION: With an open adoption option, screening and counseling are given to birth parents and adoptive couples with a goal of a lifelong relation- ship between all parties. ADOPTION HOME STUDIES: To help with independent or inter- national adoptions and adop- tions from Michigan's foster care system. STRENGTHENING FAMILIES PROGRAM: A 10-session pro- gram for families hurt by sub- stance abuse that helps improve communication and coping; SHOPLIFTERS' PROGRAM: Court ordered group counseling for shoplifters. ALPHA OMEGA HOUSE: A full-service facility for former inmates in Dickinson County. INDIVIDUAL COUNSELING: For those experiencing stress, anxiety and depression from early school age through ado- lescence. PLAY THERAPY: In Marquette and Escanaba, for children as young as three through adoles- cents and adults. MARRIAGE COUNSELING: In- dividual couple sessions and/or couple enhancement groups. FAMILY COUNSELING: For stress from dual careers, parent- ing issues, losses and grieving, emotional or physical abuse, substance abuse. PREGNANCY COUNSELING: Helps birth parents look at their options and assists in exploring other resources. POST-ABORTION COUNSELING: For grief and loss issues following an abortion or miscarriage. GRIEF COUNSELING: For those grieving the loss of a loved one. PROBLEM GAMBLING COUNSELING: For individuals and their families experiencing pathological gambling or who have problems with gambling. SUBSTANCE ABUSE COUNSELING: Counseling and treatment for alcohol or drug abuse for individuals and their families. TRYAN: U.P. native honored as Foster Care Worker of the Year Catholic Social Services provides variety of services KREEFT: How to approach faith with fallen away Catholics FROM PAGE 1

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